going it alone (with others)

26 Aug

budapest metro


Without enough alone,

my tongue forms senseless words,

my body moves without purpose.

Going deep is a solitary thing.

Aloneness is  guarded at my gate –

Hours of no thing

I sew into my pocket by hand.

I would gulp you silence in a chalice –

I would lick you from the floor.

Beyond the richter swings of my own voice

I know how to read an empty chart.


i bless this semester’s eyeballs that window soul to me

I smile at elbows that protract upon desks –

propping up sleepy heads.

This is my promise to myself and you – I

sit alone so that we can gather

and do the work

and the work beneath the work.

I will still so I can move

I will quiet so I can make noise.

I will open my eyes so I can listen –

and in between our meetings

I will drink my fill of emptiness

so I can be full for you.



“Until you learn to inhabit your aloneness, the lonely distraction and noise of society will seduce you into false belonging, with which you will only become empty and weary. When you face your aloneness, something begins to happen. Gradually, the sense of bleakness changes into a sense of true belonging. This is a slow and open-ended transition but it is utterly vital in order to come into rhythm with your own individuality. In a sense this is the endless task of finding your true home within your life. It is not narcissistic, for as soon as you rest in the house of your own heart, doors and windows begin to open outwards to the world. No longer on the run from your aloneness, your connections with others become real and creative. You no longer need to covertly scrape affirmation from others or from projects outside yourself. This is slow work; it takes years to bring your mind home.”
~ John O’Donohue


23 Responses to “going it alone (with others)”

  1. blueangelwolf August 26, 2013 at 10:03 pm #

    I agree 🙂

    • marga t. August 27, 2013 at 11:44 am #

      so cool to travel similar terrain with you 🙂

  2. Alison August 26, 2013 at 11:29 pm #

    I love John O’Donohue, and I love your poem
    “I will drink my fill of emptiness so I can be full for you ” – wonderful

    • marga t. August 27, 2013 at 11:48 am #

      I just found John O’Donohue yesterday and this discovery made me feel as if there are so many things out there yet to uncover – other voices leaving trails of wisdom waiting to be found – renews me 🙂 Who or what will I find today? What gifts! Tiding of Autumn and much love is sent to you this morning – wherever you may be 🙂 The morning air is turning.

      • Alison August 27, 2013 at 1:14 pm #

        We are in the countryside in Sweden and it is warm and sunny and we’ve just been rambling in the bush. Lovely.
        Blessings and love to you too

  3. prewitt1970 August 26, 2013 at 11:59 pm #

    Sitting quietly by your side.

    • marga t. August 27, 2013 at 11:49 am #

      hand squeezes – a friend who can sit quietly by is a rare gift, indeed.

      • prewitt1970 August 27, 2013 at 12:12 pm #

        I guess you could say I sit by your said daily as it stands, or at least part of my does. Good morning I hope you are well.

      • marga t. August 27, 2013 at 12:21 pm #

        I am coming to realize we chose to entangle at a distance – and those energetic silent agreements add to our experiences alone and together – it is the unconscious agreements that we need to observe and perhaps disentangle from as they drain – but these conscious choices to sit by each others’ sides enlivens and enriches our journeys, don’t you think?! I love my time at the easel in your studio 🙂 Good Morning my friend – x!m

      • prewitt1970 August 27, 2013 at 12:28 pm #

        Enriches, yes most certainly. Always has always will in silence, thought or with voice. May today bring great joy to your heart.

  4. lauriesnotes August 27, 2013 at 12:00 am #

    Much truth. 🙂
    It is a bit counter-intuitive..but it is true ♡

    • marga t. August 27, 2013 at 11:51 am #

      truth waiting at the edge of exhaustion – alone/together smiles sent your way this morning!

  5. seeingm August 27, 2013 at 3:25 am #

    All alone, singing to the moon, together with you. -x.M

    • marga t. August 27, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

      The poetry in the words wished to be seen along with the regal side profile, silk voice, smiles of the performers, luminous skin – sometimes the sharing can be overwhelming on so many levels –

      Hey there you, shattered in a thousand pieces
      Weeping in the darkest nights.
      Hey there you, try to stand up on your own two feet
      And stumble into the sky.

      When the lights go out and you’re on your own
      How you’re gonna make it through till the morning sun?

      Sing to the moon and the stars will shine
      Over you, lead you to the other side.
      Sing to the moon and the stars will shine
      Over you, heaven’s gonna turn the time.

      Hey there you, looking for a brighter season
      Need to lay your burden down.
      Hey there you, drowning in a hopeless feeling,
      Buried under deeper ground.

      When the lights go out it’s a waiting game.
      Never gonna see a day when your world will change.

      Sing to the moon and the stars will shine
      Over you, lead you to the other side.
      Sing to the moon and the stars will shine
      Over you, heaven’s gonna turn the time.

  6. David Kanigan August 27, 2013 at 9:50 am #

    Love this…thank you.

    • marga t. August 27, 2013 at 11:53 am #

      Thank you for the inspirations you share, David Kanigan!

  7. Bonnie August 28, 2013 at 7:52 pm #

    Beautiful, insightful. And, incredibly helpful. Thank you.
    (ps. found you by way of David’s blog)

    • marga t. August 28, 2013 at 10:52 pm #

      Hey Bonnie, so nice to see you and trip along with you and your son a bit today. What a wonderful adventure! I’ll look forward to seeing what you are up to, thanks to David!

  8. Mona August 29, 2013 at 4:05 am #

    The power of solitude … It renews and refreshes.

    • marga t. August 30, 2013 at 3:28 pm #

      I am nourishing myself with solitude and silence as that is what seems to be in order now/in between chaotic bursts 🙂 So nice to meet you here!


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